Foe-Kiss

I don’t really have any idea why I’m so amused by words, or so entertained by word play.  But I am.  And I love the kind of word play that pushes you to think about stuff in new ways.  Alternate definitions.  Earlier this week I’d been thinking about Focus as Foe-Kiss, and wondering exactly what that might mean.  So when Jamie Ridler’s Wishcasting Wednesday prompt was “What do you wish to focus on?” I couldn’t help but smile at the synchronicity.

Focus is something I’m always dancing with, and I often think other people’s relationships with it is more straight-forward than mine.  Sometimes I feel like I can be single-mindedly riveted, and other times I feel like I’m distracted by every shining object.  Which is all well and fine, and something I suppose we all experience; but it can be really annoying when I find myself in one camp when I’m really telling myself I should be in the other.  And the whole thing is fraught with self-judgment about how I could be better if only…

I’ve been trying to make peace with this, and laughed when the term “Foe-Kiss” came to mind.  So I decided to consider the possibility that my relationship with focus doesn’t have to be adversarial.  I’m choosing to see it as a rhythm.  Sometimes I’m standing very close to something and it fills my entire field of vision; and other times I’m standing further away, up on the proverbial rooftop, and there is a wider view with no one thing commanding complete attention.  I’m gifting myself with permission for this to be okay no matter how or when it shows up, and I feel like a huge burden has been lifted.  I believe I’ve kissed the foe and found we’re friends.

But Jamie’s prompt made me think about what it is I want to focus on, and Connection keeps coming up for me.  And like all things that are fascinating, there seems to be so many levels of this to explore.   There is the level of connecting at a personal and professional level – the seeing and being seen.  There is also the level of understanding that EVERYTHING is connected – what I like to think of unity consciousness.  And there is an aspect of alignment that seems important when understanding connection – there has to be a perceived path by which to connect.  And finally, harmony/joy seems an integral part of connection that I’m choosing to focus on.

The image that came forward for me was a beautiful circular spider web.   It feels like a perfect reminder of how everything is indeed connected.

So what about you?  Have you kissed a foe lately?  Is there something you want to be focusing on?  Are you feeling connected or disconnected?  I love to hear from you – please leave a comment.