Writing my way through the A-to-Z blogging challenge, I’m sharing my thoughts and reflections on a lexicon (vocabulary specific to a certain subject) of unusual, obscure, or simply charming-to-me words. Ludic is defined as “playful, in an aimless way” and that’s my plan for approaching this challenge – keeping my feet on the joy trail and meandering wherever the daily word takes me.
D is for…
deliciate – to takes one’s pleasure, enjoy oneself, revel, feast, luxuriate. Obsolete, intrasative verb, from the 1900s.
Such a deliciously delightful, seemingly indulgent, concept. There are so many things that come to mind for me when I ponder this word. But what I really want to advocate is the idea that to deliciate should not be held as overly indulgent, but rather appreciated as a way to practice exquisite self-care.
I think a lot about self-care, and I really appreciate Parker Palmer’s stand that “Self-care is never a selfish act – it is simply good stewardship of the only gift I have, the gift I was put on earth to offer others.” I believe it’s important at all times, but especially during wobble-inducing times when our practices tend to fall by the wayside. I think if we all had firmly established self-care practices that help keep us in balance, move us back into equilibrium, and then hopefully tip us into joy, our stability, our light, our centeredness would become so foundational if we do wobble, we can bounce back much more quickly.
Given that we’re sovereign beings with the responsibility of mindful guardianship of our energy and thoughts, I like paying attention to my own self-care practices. To my mind it’s certainly a matter that invites frequent reassessment. I believe that self-care is more a dynamic flow of nuanced responses rather than a rigid to-do list. And so it requires rather broad structures as framework, but the specifics vary greatly. There are times in our lives, our decades, our days, when we’re better at it, and times when we flounder, but there is always always the invitation to listen and respond to the question, how can I honor and care for myself?
Currently some of the things I’m deliciating in:
- My 100-day project. Every morning in the time it takes to brew the first pot of coffee, I draw a whimsical bee and take a photo so I can post it to Instagram. I LOVE this practice – it sets the tone for the day of playful creativity; the short amount of time I allot helps keep me loose, playful, and without any pressure to create something wonderful. And after 100 days I’ll have a collection of little bees that delight my heart. How can you beat that?
- I’ve really leveled up my fascination with plants this past year. They’ve somehow helped my maintain my sanity during the sequestering and wobbliness. We’ve got some mutual nurturing going on, and it makes my heart happy and my emotional body far more peaceful.
- Listening to audiobooks has become a delightful daily practice. I’d forgotten how much I love being read to, and listening a little every day is like exponentially extending a wonderful treat. And a truth for me is there can never be too many books!
- Deliciate is associated with feasting as well, and I’ve got that covered. My beloved gifted me with a fabulous year-long subscription and each month at the time of the new moon, I receive a box of artisan chocolates and something else, often a crystal. Pure heaven.
Each one of these things helps me stay grounded and centered, feel good, and focuses my appreciation. I absolutely believe that we honor things when we pay attention to them (which of course makes it sound advice not to give attention to what you don’t wish to honor). I think it’s perfectly possible to wrap/adorn yourself and your energy in ways that feel self-nurturing, joyful, and delicious. And all those elements are constituents of exquisite self-care aren’t they?
So there you have it, a peek at some probably not-so-obvious self-care practices that are part of my life these days. What about you? Have a favorite practice? What do you find delicious, pleasurable, luxurious? Which of your senses are asking for a bit more attention? What piece of delight are you going to welcome into your world? Do tell – you know I love to hear.