Well here we are at our last stop, having zig-zagged our way through alphabet land via the A-to-Z blogging challenge. I’ve been writing a manifesto of things I believe and that delight me, based on unusual words, and today we’re finishing with the letter Z.
The word I’ve chosen is actually a phrase, in Chinese. I don’t really know how to pronounce it, but I don’t care. My manifesto, my rules. And this one is most definitely a keeper. Let me introduce you to:
Zhi zi zhi shou, yu zi xie lao. It means “to hold hands and grow old together.”
There’s something about that phrase that just fills me. I imagine the original intent of the phrase was expressing a beautiful wish for one’s primary love relationship, but how beautiful is it to extend that to all our relationships? I am blessed to have many wonderful friendships, some of which have lasted for many many years, and I love that we’re growing old together. But I also love knowing that I’m growing old in connection with everything else on this planet as well. This season I will grow older in the company of roses and old oak trees and our beautiful moon, and perhaps there will be a shooting star or a rainbow. We may not be on the same lifespan cycle, but we’re each here for however long we’re here, and what if we held the intention to hold hands along the way.
I can’t help but be reminded of the beautiful wisdom of Ram Dass who said “we’re all just walking each other home.”
Yes, indeed, we truly are.
I can think of no better way to navigate this world than with the aim of zhi zi zhi shou, yu zi xie lao – to hold hands and grow old together.
What about you? Who do you want to hold hands with? How are you wanting to navigate your journey here? We’re all growing old – how do you feel about that? Do tell – you know I love to hear.