is for Cherry Picking
Cherry picking is defined as selectively choosing the best, most desirable, most beneficial items from what is available.
While I’ve often heard the term used as a mild pejorative, I’ve really been embracing this of late as the most wonderful example of exquisite self-care.
I owe thanks to a friend who pointed this out to me – that I was cherry picking – because I hadn’t quite thought of it in those terms before. But once she mentioned it, I’ve picked up the basket and run with it.
We’re all looking for balance. I know that’s true. All of us have countless things on our plate; people we need to interact with, tasks that need to be done, emails to be answered – what vies for our attention seems endless and continually growing. Even those of us who lead rather simple lives, and I include myself in that category, can fall prey to overwhelm, excess, and a continual sense that there isn’t enough of us to go around nor the time to make it happen.
Emilie Wapnick of Puttylike has done wonders to bring focus to the idea of multipotentialites, which she defines as “a person who has many different interests and creative pursuits in life… We have many paths and we pursue all of them, either sequentially or simultaneously (or both).”
I definitely consider myself a multipotentialite and it’s when I’m pursing lots of things – actively following what inspires me – that I’m most happy, most creative, and most being who I truly am.
I used to rue that. I wished I had the single-sighted focus of other folks; a more linear way of operating that had beginnings and middle points and endings lined up in a predictable fashion. I can laugh at that now, and what I really rue is that I spent any time whatsoever trying to bend myself into being something that I’m not.
I love that I feel good about who I am and that I don’t want to be anyone else – just me full out.
And so it feels perfect that I not only like cherry picking but that I advocate everyone do it. Choose what feels right for you; what supports you; what sparks your curiosity and drives you into delighted exploration; what fills you; what makes sense to you. Pick those things. And leave all the rest.
No system is one-size-fits all and those that insist most strenuously that they are, are really asking that you bend yourself and ignore the parts that don’t fit, perhaps even disowning them in yourself. What if instead we all chose to walk our own right-fit path – cherry-picking amongst everything what was perfect for us?
What if we let go of the judgments and the pejoratives that suggest it’s self-centered or perhaps even avoiding the hard stuff when we cherry pick?
Let’s just celebrate ourselves and each other, marveling in our exquisite self-care knowing that we’re choosing the perfect cherries to fill the bowls that are our lives.
All this speaking of cherries made me think of a little stash of cherry beads I have. For a while I had them strung as part of necklace, but I desconstructed that and am now awaiting inspiration for their next incarnation. But they do delight me so, so I thought I’d give you a peek. Along with one of my cherry bowls. They make me smile each time I use them.
Now tell me about you. Is there some place in your life where you should be doing some cherry picking? Are you practicing exquisite self-care? Filling your bowls with good things? Do tell – you know I love to hear.