Today’s Reverb15 prompt comes from Cindy Mearns:
“As each year progresses, we unknowingly gather many thoughts, beliefs, and patterns to us. In fact, what we are carrying may have been passed down to us from previous generations.
Looking at the thoughts and patterns that may be holding you back from living the life you want, trace back through the generations of your family and see if your beliefs originated generations ago.
In 2016, how can you bring healing to these patterns of thought that are holding you back?”
While this is a fascinating prompt that I understand and appreciate the value of, I’m going to approach it in a rather roundabout way…
For the last couple years part of my spiritual practice has been examining all the stories I carry – all the things I tell myself about who I am and what has happened in my life. My guidance has always been very clear – let go of the stories.
I can hear some of you gasping – what would that mean? Wouldn’t I lose the very things that are important to me? And I can very truthfully answer – no. You don’t lose the experience. You lose the emotional charge around it. And then the experience becomes pure. It’s like you get to see it wholly, without being pulled off to one side or one perspective or one chosen position for viewing.
But it’s also true we’re very invested in our stories. We think they give us meaning. We’re reluctant to let them go, and especially the ones we use to define ourselves.
But consider what it would be like to simply not tell your story any more. To get more and more free of the ways you think you have to define yourself because of the stories you tell about who you are. Can’t you feel the freedom in that?
I think that’s really what it means to be in the now moment. Not tied to a past perspective, nor projecting yourself forward into the imagined future, but simply being who you are in this moment, authentically meeting the moment in your current state of being.
Or perhaps we can just let the story go and just stay current with who we are.
Earlier this year I had another awareness about how to approach this releasing of the story – how to hone in on what’s going on, and this seems particularly applicable to what Cindy has suggested in her prompt. Just like the adage “follow the money trail” when you’re trying to unravel a complicated knot of what’s going really going on in certain situations; I’ve given myself a couple paths to follow when looking at patterns of belief and the stories around them. I look at “what’s the fear” and “where’s the judgment.”
It seems to me that all the stories and beliefs and thoughts that confine us are based in fear and judgment. I have no doubt they originated in an effort to protect us in some manner, at some point, but that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t be looking at them and dismantling them if that’s what we choose.
I’ve been playing with this for years now, and it’s interesting to see how my understanding and approaches have evolved over time. Way back in autumn 2009 I blogged about releasing the old stories. I happened to re-find the post today when I was searching through blog tags looking for something else. But I think what I said back then rings true today, and offers some ideas about how to approach releasing. I invite you to check it out if you’re inspired.
But in any case, I’m curious about what you think – do tell, you know I love to hear. And check out how others are responding to this prompt here.