Niki of The Richness of a Simple Life has issued a Kindness Challenge inviting people to focus on kindness for seven weeks. Each week she’ll be offering a prompt and inviting people to work with that focus and then post about it at the end of the week. Do consider joining us – now is always the right time for adding more kindness to the world.
This first week’s focus was: Self-Love.
In truth I’ve always been self-reflective, and years of deep inner work, spiritual practice and soul connection have really opened up the exploration of self-love for me.
I absolutely believe self-love is a critical core piece and an essential component of how we’re meant to navigate in this world. We cannot be authentic unless we’re centered in love of ourselves. If we are not, we are subject to the desire and drive to bend ourselves into pretzel-like positions, trying always to be the person someone else will like, approve of, or love. But the price we pay is that the other person may indeed like, love or approve, but they’re doing that towards a false self we really aren’t. And as we pull ourselves further and further away from who we truly are, we become lost, untethered from our true anchor point, disconnected from our true soul self.
While it’s true we live in relationship with one another, in relationship with all things, true unity consciousness invites us to understand we’re doing this eye-to-eye, peer-to-peer. No one is more important than you, and no one is less.
If I believe my mission is to increase the love quotient here on planet Earth, and in fact I do believe that, then I not only have to be sourced in love, but I have to radiate it as purely and clearly as I can. It starts with me. If I think of myself as a love and light transceiver – a transmitter and receiver, I have to envision every particle of me, every cell, every thought, word, and deed infused in love. How lovely and light that is! And then my job is simply to meet the world that way. To understand that inside isn’t different from outside, me isn’t different from you.
Being set on loving myself means paying attention to who I am, what I’m carrying, and making sure it’s all in alignment with what I wish to express.
Is it always easy to love ourselves? Of course not. I’m pretty sure there will always be times when we disappoint ourselves. There are certainly times when I allow myself to feel judged and feel that sting to those parts of me that are most tender.
But I think part of our work is to notice these things. To know where we wobble and invite in great compassion and deep understanding, and keep surrendering all the places we keep ourselves tight and hidden and in fear. Always committing to loving ourselves and moving closer and closer to our pure true selves.
Niki has invited us to do a self-portrait and/or choose a mantra to empower our work. I can’t help but love Rumi’s admonition: “Close your eyes. Fall in love. Stay there.”
Won’t you join me?